A bit about me.
Personal growth has always been important to me, though when I was younger it often came from a place of trying to improve myself in order to avoid being hurt in some way. Now, my personal growth journey comes from a place of getting in touch with who I am at my core, when I strip away all of the conditioning that I inadvertently implemented from previous generations, our society, and as a way to be loved by others. Learning how to love myself in that stripped down way has been a journey of learning boundaries, assertive communication, vulnerability, and what my values truly are. This journey has led me through everything from psychology courses, to traditional cognitive behavioural therapy, medications, somatic healing, and life coaching.
Do you ever play back memories of past conversations and cringe, wishing that you hadn't said what you did, or hadn't said it in that way? Sometimes years later? Have you ever held back from trying something new because you're worried you won't be good at it? Do you ever say yes to a request and have immediate regrets, or maybe even resentment when you follow through with it? Do you ever struggle to decide what the right decision is because you hear so many voices telling you what you 'should' do? Do you ever wish you could spot an argument coming, and have a constructive conversation that leaves you feeling more connected, versus a fight that leaves you feeling alone? Do you ever wish you could slow down and appreciate the moment you're in? Do you ever feel anxious when things don't go according to plan? And spiral about how things 'should've been'? Are you ever hard on yourself for a decision you made in the past because you 'should've known better'?
I have. And still sometimes do. My goal isn't to never have these experiences again, because I am human with a past that left indelible marks, and an ego that tries to protect me. My goal is to recognize these moments sooner...and equip myself with tools that will help me navigate my way through these intrusive thoughts and feelings with self-compassion. My goal is to practice enough, that I don't let those thoughts and feelings take charge of my life. And my goal is to help you do the same.