Embracing Our Personal Power - Unlocking What’s Already Within
Welcome back, Beautiful Friends!
I’m back after a little break, feeling refreshed and excited to dive in again! And this week, it happens to be my birthday. Birthdays have a way of bringing up all sorts of reflections, don’t they? Some people love celebrating, some would rather forget about it, and others see it as just another day. For me, it’s sparked a reflection on the power we hold in shaping our lives.
We often label events in our lives as “good” or “bad,” but the truth is, everything is neutral until we assign meaning to it. And here’s the powerful part: we get to choose the meaning we attach. It might sound simplistic, but think about it—how often do we let outside circumstances define our inner state?
This doesn’t mean we deny the pain of loss, rejection, or hardship. But what if those experiences could redirect us toward something better than we ever imagined? Recognizing that we have the power to assign meaning is a crucial part of stepping into our personal power.
Owning this power can feel overwhelming—especially if, like me, you grew up believing that life happens to you. Most of us weren’t taught that while external circumstances can affect us, we have the power to decide how we relate to them. The trauma or hardships we experienced aren’t our fault, but it’s our responsibility as adults to work through their impact so that they don’t control our future.
Embracing personal power doesn’t mean we try to control everything. In fact, it’s about learning to release the need to control. Our power isn’t tied to our job title, material wealth, or external achievements. It lies in how we take responsibility for our inner world—the choices we make and the meanings we assign to events in our lives.
As Cory Muscara wisely says, “The life you’re looking for is on the other side of the life you don’t want to let go of.”
Now, you might think, "But I have responsibilities.” Whether it’s family, bills, or your job, personal power isn’t about abandoning those responsibilities. It’s about taking an honest look at the beliefs and patterns that may be keeping us stuck. When we approach this with self-compassion, we can loosen their grip and take steps, however small or uncomfortable, toward a more aligned life.
Here are a few key points to consider when stepping into our power:
Stop blaming everyone and everything else – It’s okay to acknowledge how others’ actions have affected us, but holding on to that impact only keeps us stuck. Accountability isn’t about continuously reminding the person who hurt us of that impact. Releasing blame allows us to reclaim our power and move forward.
Examine your narratives – What stories am I telling myself about my life? Do they keep me feeling small, or are they empowering? What do I gain from holding onto these narratives?
Reconnect with your core values – Are my decisions in alignment with my values? When we act from a place of alignment, our choices tend to feel more authentic and meaningful.
Embrace vulnerability – Vulnerability isn’t just about asking for help; it’s about being honest with ourselves and others. It allows us to be authentic and show up fully in our relationships. We all have a unique light to shine, and when we embrace our vulnerability, we allow that light to come through. Vulnerability connects us to our inner truth and helps us step into our power.
Let go of the need to control outcomes – We can’t predict the future or control how things will unfold. Believing we can control it or thinking we should’ve known better adds to our suffering. Focusing on making values-aligned decisions (instead of outcomes) brings more peace and reduces unnecessary suffering.
Honour your follow-through – Am I keeping my commitments to myself and others? Following through on what we say builds self-trust and strengthens our personal power. Fortifying our follow-through also encourages us to check in with ourselves before adding another commitment.
Stay connected to yourself – Staying connected to ourselves through practices like mindfulness, journaling, or simple moments of reflection ensures that we’re aligning with our true intentions. Self-connection helps us check in with all of the areas above, making sure we’re on the path that feels right for us. It’s the foundation that sustains all the other aspects of personal power.
By reflecting on these areas, we can stop giving away our power, stop self-abandoning, and start living a life that truly resonates. It won’t always be comfortable, but it’s in those moments of discomfort that we can allow what no longer serves us to fall away, making space for something more aligned to take its place.
Stepping into our personal power means stepping into our light. We are all unique beings with something special to offer, and the world needs your light, your authentic truth. You don’t need to be more than who you are; when you connect to and embrace that, you’ll find that you already have the power you’ve been searching for.
If you’re ready to reclaim your power and create a life that feels aligned, I’m here to support you every step of the way.
With heartfelt gratitude,
Christina
