Embracing Self-Trust – Returning to Ourselves Again & Again
Welcome back, Friends!
Do you trust yourself? How much?
If you say you’re going to do something, how likely are you to follow through? For yourself or others? Do you still trust yourself when you don’t see evidence that what you’re doing is paying off?
None of these questions are about judging ourselves—they’re about checking in. Because just like every other aspect of personal growth, self-trust isn’t something we learn once and master forever. It comes in layers. And often, we’re asked to learn it again and again—especially in seasons of transition.
When something in our lives is shifting, whether it’s a relationship, a career, or our circumstances, we’re often confronted with layers of beliefs—about ourselves and about how the world works. Maybe they’re beliefs we thought we had already worked through.
For example, the last time you changed jobs, maybe you faced and released outdated beliefs about not being good enough, or not being capable. But now, in a new transition, those same beliefs are resurfacing. Why?
Because healing happens in layers. We peel one layer back, tend to what we find, and eventually, another presents itself. And here’s what can feel especially frustrating: reaching deeper layers can sometimes feel like moving backward. We might find ourselves feeling more triggered, more anxious, or more uncertain than before. And that can feel incredibly discouraging.
But often, what feels like regression is actually proof that we’re growing.
As we begin to replace numbing coping mechanisms with tools that help us process emotions, those emotions can feel more intense at first. It’s not that we’re doing worse—it’s that we’re finally allowing ourselves to feel. And that, in itself, is progress.
If you’re in this phase of growth, here are some things to keep in mind:
Celebrate the small wins: Did you pause before reacting? Speak up when you usually would have stayed quiet? Show yourself patience instead of judgment? Every step forward counts.
Nurture your body as much as your mind: Healing isn’t just mental—it’s physical, too. Pay attention to how your body is feeling, and offer it the rest, nourishment, or movement it needs.
Let yourself be supported: You don’t have to navigate this alone. Whether it’s leaning on a trusted friend, therapist, or coach, allowing support is a form of self-trust, too.
Remind yourself that discomfort isn’t proof you’re failing: Feeling deeply doesn’t mean you’re back at square one—it means you’re processing on a deeper level. Trust that your emotions are guiding you.
Release the idea that self-trust is a one-time decision. We don’t build trust in ourselves once and keep it forever—it’s something we return to, over and over, as we grow.
The journey of self-trust isn’t linear. You’ll have moments of clarity and moments of doubt. You’ll move through seasons of deep trust and seasons where you have to find your way back to it. And that’s okay.
Learning to trust yourself isn’t about never feeling uncertain again—it’s about choosing, again and again, to listen to your inner voice, even when it feels shaky.
Keep going. Keep softening into trust. And know that wherever you are right now, even if that's in a moment of doubt, you are already on your way. If you’re moving through a season of transition and looking for extra support, I’d love to walk alongside you. Feel free to reach out to explore working together.
With heartfelt gratitude,
Christina
